Dear Extroverts (and my fellow introverts),
Being an introvert is something that I cannot change. It won’t go away and it won’t be fixed the more I am around people. I come off shy sometimes and I’ve even heard people can view me as being stuck up. I am not shy or at all stuck up.I am an introvert and wouldn’t have it any other way!
An introvert is someone who is more internal than external. They keep things inside and don’t feel the need to talk as much. Someone who would rather smile and wave than stop to say hello. They respond when spoken to but aren’t the ones who start the conversation. An Introvert is not only comfortable being alone, they prefer it. They would much rather be at home than in a crowd.
I am different from you (extroverts)! Meeting new people and in new places can be overwhelming to me. Recharging for me means I need a quiet evening alone in the house. Being by myself is how I handle life.
When I don’t want to be on the phone for hours or I don’t text you every single day, it doesn’t mean I don’t miss you or that I don’t care. It means that I need the time to reconnect with myself after a long day around people. It drains me to work with people every single day. Talking and pretending to be an extrovert is extremely exhausting.
In order to understand me, you need to understand that I may be quiet but it doesn’t mean that I don’t feel anything or don’t have opinions on something. I am quiet because I am thinking or feeling. Both of these are things that happen internally for me. If I take a while to respond it is because I have to think about how I want to respond and how I feel about it. My feelings are not on my sleeve! You may have to dig or ask about them. I keep my feelings on the inside but just know that I don’t say my feelings. I feel them. It may not come out into words because I don’t know how to explain them.
If you understand this then you understand me and all the other introverts like me. For that, I thank you! There aren’t many that can understand what it is like for us introverts. They don’t understand why we can’t just walk up to a stranger and start a conversation. Or how we get overwhelmed in crowds. Its weird that we don’t like to go out all the time. Some hate how we don’t share our feelings or want to talk for hours and hours.
To my fellow introverts, know that it is okay to be you! It is okay to need alone time. That is how you recharge or figure out life. Make the time for yourself and if people don’t understand then that’s okay. Be you with no worries or regrets. There are people out there that understand you and will love you for who you are!
To all the extroverts out there, let us introverts be ourselves. Don’t make us do things your way because that’s how you think it should be. Be understanding that we don’t operate like you! Appreciate our effort when we try our best to get out of our introvert ways and start up a conversation with others or express our feelings about something. If you can do this, we will love you forever!
Thanks to all my family and friends who get me, who appreciate me, and who love me for me! I would not trade you for the world!