An Open Letter from an Introvert

Dear Extroverts (and my fellow introverts),

Being an introvert is something that I cannot change. It won’t go away and it won’t be fixed the more I am around people. I come off shy sometimes and I’ve even heard people can view mWhat an Extrovert Needs to Know about Introvertse as being stuck up. I am not shy or at all stuck up.I am an introvert and wouldn’t have it any other way!


An introvert is someone who is more internal than external. They keep things inside and don’t feel the need to talk as much. Someone who would rather smile and wave than stop to say hello. They respond when spoken to but aren’t the ones who start the conversation. An Introvert is not only comfortable being alone, they prefer it. They would much rather be at home than in a crowd.

I am different from you (extroverts)! Meeting new people and in new places can be overwhelming to me. Recharging for me means I need a quiet evening alone in the house. Being by myself is how I handle life.

When I don’t want to be on the phone for hours or I don’t text you every single day, it doesn’t mean I don’t miss you or that I don’t care. It means that I need the time to reconnect with myself after a long day around people. It drains me to work with people every single day. Talking and pretending to be an extrovert is extremely exhausting.

In order to understand me, you need to understand that I may be quiet but it doesn’t mean that I don’t feel anything or don’t have opinions on something. I am quiet because I am thinking or feeling. Both of these are things that happen internally for me. If I take a while to respond it is because I have to think about how I want to respond and how I feel about it. My feelings are not on my sleeve!  You may have to dig or ask about them. I keep my feelings on the inside but just know that I don’t say my feelings. I feel them. It may not come out into words because I don’t know how to explain them.

If you understand this then you understand me and all the other introverts like me. For that, I thank you! There aren’t many that can understand what it is like for us introverts. They don’t understand why we can’t just walk up to a stranger and start a conversation. Or how we get overwhelmed in crowds. Its wWhat an Extrovert needs to know about Introvertseird that we don’t like to go out all the time. Some hate how we don’t share our feelings or want to talk for hours and hours.

To my fellow introverts, know that it is okay to be you! It is okay to need alone time. That is how you recharge or figure out life. Make the time for yourself and if people don’t understand then that’s okay. Be you with no worries or regrets. There are people out there that understand you and will love you for who you are!


To all the extroverts out there, let us introverts be ourselves. Don’t make us do things your way because that’s how you think it should be. Be understanding that we don’t operate like you! Appreciate our effort when we try our best to get out of our introvert ways and start up a conversation with others or express our feelings about something. If you can do this, we will love you forever!

Thanks to all my family and friends who get me, who appreciate me, and who love me for me! I would not trade you for the world!

This post is shared on Meandering MondaysNourishing Joy, Let’s Be Friends Blog Hop, Turn it Up Tuesday, and Link It Up Wednesday!

7 thoughts on “An Open Letter from an Introvert

  1. I absolutely love this post. As a fellow introvert, I can relate to this on every level. I have often been mistaken for arrogant, angry, etc. just for being quiet. It’s nice to meet a fellow introvert on the web! I know that it’s not easy to put yourself out there, even anonymously. Thank you for posting this, and I hope to read more on here soon!

    1. Thanks Kyrstie! It is great to meet a fellow introvert! Especially when you are surrounded by extroverts! It is sad that others see us as arrogant or stuck up just because we don’t say much! Hopefully they can grow to understand us! Glad to know there are others that can relate! Thanks so much for stopping by! Hope to “see” you again! 🙂

  2. I am the exact same way! I have many times been mistaken for being stuck up just because I don’t speak as much and stay quiet. When I do try to break out of my shell and speak to people I usually fret over what I say for days. Did I say that right? I hope I didn’t offend someone. These play over and over in my mind until I finally tell myself it is just better to be silent and let people think whatever they want about me. My family knows who I am and they love me for it or despite it. Thank you for sharing this at Link It Up Wednesday! I hope to see you again next week.

    1. Hey Kileen,
      Thanks for stopping by and for sharing! It is so nice to know that there are others out there with the exact same thoughts and feelings. I also think about things that I have said and wonder how others took it. I look forward to linking up next week! 🙂

  3. Thank you for this letter, Lyndsey. I’m an introvert at heart myself (though I do act like an extrovert in some situations) and I think it’s so important to respect that fact. Both for other and for ourselves. Sometimes it’s so easy to let others convince you to do something you don’t really want to do just because you feel pressured to do so or because you aren’t the best at saying “no”. At least for me this can be difficult as I usually keep most of my thoughts and feelings to myself.

    I wish you a wonderful day 🙂


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