We’ve all heard the stories, right? Those brides who are so stressed out they freak out about every little detail of the wedding. It’s terrifying!
Well, now its your turn to be the bride and plan a wedding. Yes, it is going to be stressful and your are going to have times where things don’t go exactly how you want. Trust me, you will survive and everything will turn out as wonderful as you have always dreamed.
If you are concerned about turning into the dreaded bridezilla then listen to these words of advice. I was able to survive my wedding planning experience without letting the stress turn me into a bride my bridal party feared (it made things a lot easier and way more fun on my big day)
Go into it knowing no matter what it will be a wonderful day
Let’s say the worst of the worst happens. I’ve heard some horror stories about disaster weddings. One for example, two days before the wedding a hurricane came through and destroyed the venue. The couple did get their money back. However, this left two days to find another venue and let everyone know of the change. They almost had to postpone their wedding.
That would be pretty stressful. Luckily, they were able to have their wedding at a different location and everything turned out wonderful. So if you think your wedding planning experience is crazy stressful, please remember this couple that was able to make everything come together.
The worst of the worst may happen to you. Just know that your family and friends will pull together and help you make it all work out!
Know that no matter what, you get to marry the man of your dreams
Maybe you don’t get your way on every little detail (you won’t). Just remember that it doesn’t matter that you aren’t able to book the photographer that you’ve always dreamed of. You get to stand up next to the love of your life and vow to love them forever. That’s what you are going to remember.
Take frequent baths with lavender and Epsom salt. This will help you relax and keep stress levels down. If you can afford it, pamper yourself. Get pedicures, manicures, facials, and massages. It will not only help relax you but also help you look your best for your big day.
Get into a normal workout routine and start eating healthier. The legally blonde quote is completely true. Said by Elle, “Exercise gives you endorphins, Endorphins make you happy, Happy people just don’t kill their husbands, they just don’t”
Not only will it help you relax, it will also help you slim down and tone up before the big day.
Don’t stress about the dress
It will fit! You picked the perfect one! Everyone will rave about how beautiful you look on your wedding day.
They make alterations so that the dress fits you and not so you fit into the dress. If your friends and family don’t rave about how wonderful you look, then you might need some new ones because the ones you have are not very nice. I have never once seen a bride look terrible on their wedding day! How could you when you are glowing with happiness.
Know that it will all come together and be perfect
If you forget something, or something goes wrong chances are no one will even notice. So there is no need to fret over the small things. I can tell you that I can barely remember exactly what decorations I had on my tables, it didn’t really matter. I had my friends and family there, I got to marry the man of my dreams, and we all had a blast. That’s what really counts if you ask me.
I forgot plenty of things and it still was the most wonderful day of my life! Worry about having the time of your life, that’s what people will remember, not your table decorations.
I also didn’t know how it was all going to come together. It somehow did. Yours will too, even if it is hard to see how it possibly will.
Don’t feel bad to ask for help
This goes for life in general. We are not superwoman. We cannot do everything on our own. No matter how many times we try to tell ourselves that we can.
Have parties with your bridesmaids while you put together the invitations and get them sent out. Have your future husband help you make things (or your family.) Don’t think that it all has to be on you. It will be a lot less stressful if you have the extra help. They would much rather you ask for help than turn into a bridezilla.
I know how hard it can be. I am the type of person to take control on a group project in school because I get nervous that other people won’t do it the right way. Well I learned really quick that, with the wedding I couldn’t be like that. I had to rely on my friends and family to help get some of the things done.
Take it all in
This should be the most exciting time in your life. Don’t let the stress take that away from you. Stop and have a little fun. Focus on that, its what you will want to remember. You don’t want to wish this time away. Even though you may be stressed up to your eyeballs, you will want to cherish the engagement period. If you are lucky you will only have this time in your life once. Stop and take a breath and enjoy this new adventure with your significant other.
Don’t stress over family issues
It’s your day, don’t let your family influence your decisions. Don’t let them make you feel bad for having the wedding the way you want. Just don’t be mean about it either. Explain that it is your day and you want it to be the way that you have always imagined. Say it tactfully in order to not cause more drama. This is one the only times in your life that it is completely okay to
Plan out your itinerary
If you plan out your whole day or wedding weekend, you will be a lot less stressed the day of and you can just focus on have the best day of your life. This is one thing that I did and I highly recommend it. I had a tentative schedule of times that things needed to be done and who had to be involved. I knew that everyone knew their part and I didn’t have to worry about telling people where to be. It was amazing.
You will get stressed and that’s okay. It’s all about how you handle that stress. Take a big breath, relax, and think about how wonderful it will be to marry your best friend! I hope my pointers and experience will help you during the most exciting time of your life. Keep checking back for more tips and tricks to planning the wedding of your dreams!